If you married someone who was unfaithful to you, would you remain faithful? The concept of making a vow and actually keeping it seems to have gone out of style these days as divorce rates skyrocket. The role models we see in media and in our own lives have skewed our perception of loyalty, but I am willing to put my life on the line and bet that loyalty is still the #1 trait we want in our closest friends, our family and especially our significant other.
Underlying the concept of loyalty is the expectation we have of those closest to us. From the beginning, when our parents made a promise that they would do XYZ, we as children expected them to carry through. If they didn’t, of course we were terribly disappointed, but if they habitually made promises that they did not carry through, we grow up believing that it’s okay to say what we don’t mean without much regard to the weight of our words. It’s okay to tell someone what they want to hear and later break your promise because, after all, words don’t mean anything. When it comes to a life commitment to someone you love, in the back of your mind you might be wondering if this is going to work out in a few years.
What about when it comes to our relationship with God? If we have been betrayed again and again by others’ lack of substance, are God’s words any good either? You might hear people’s amazing testimonies about God’s faithfulness; you can buy hundreds of books from Barnes & Noble about God’s promises and really try your hardest to believe that God’s promises apply to you too, but these books just don’t resonate with you because you have prayed and asked God a million times already for that one thing, and He still has not answered. So yeah, He may be answering everyone else’s prayers except yours. What gives??
“If we are unfaithful, he remains faithful, for he cannot deny who he is.” 2 Timothy 2:13
Regardless of any poor role models you may have had in life, keep in mind that God was not that father who abandoned you, the mother who abused/neglected you, or the relative/family friend who betrayed you. Just as you wouldn’t want your significant other to judge you based on his or her experiences with their ex, it would not be fair to God to use your life’s experiences as a metric for His faithfulness.
Because we are not perfect, we are guilty of sinning against God every day, hurting Him with our doubts, our lack of faith, and our hurtful actions. Constantly He reaches out to us, tries to woo us through some random act of kindness through a stranger or a friend, or maybe He tries to get your attention but you stubbornly refuse to acknowledge His existence. Despite all your rejections, God still waits for you faithfully, because He longs to fill the void in your broken heart. God is faithful, and no matter what you do, He will remain faithful because that is who He is. Your behavior does not change God’s character.
8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord.
9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
so are my ways higher than your ways
and my thoughts than your thoughts.”
We are finite, and God is infinite, so is it possible for us to ever understand God and His ways? Just because God didn’t answer your prayers the way you wanted (or when you wanted), it doesn’t mean that He is deliberately holding out on you. God is always good, all the time, but trusting Him with your unhealed heart is probably the biggest obstacle standing in the way of your faith. We are tainted with memories of broken promises and words that meant absolutely nothing. And the media isn’t very helpful in building up the concept of loyalty in its truest form, either. How do we rid of ourselves of such polluted, warped belief systems?
“Seek the Lord while he may be found;
call upon him while he is near;
7 let the wicked forsake his way,
and the unrighteous man his thoughts…”
Negativity, warped notions of loyalty, and wrong actions that result from such thinking are all wicked in God’s eyes.
Let go of your preconceived notions of who God is and allow yourself to fully embrace what the scriptures say about God’s unfailing love and loyalty. Abandon any presumption that sets itself up against the knowledge of God and fully pursue Him with all your heart. Don’t allow your bitterness from broken promises to ruin your understanding of God.
“God is not a man that he should lie, nor a son of man, that he should change his mind. Does he speak and then not act? Does he promise and not fulfill?” Numbers 23:19
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